By Peggy Orenstein
The acclaimed writer of the groundbreaking bestseller Schoolgirls unearths the darkish part of purple and beautiful: the increase of the girlie-girl, she warns, isn't really that innocent.
Pink and lovely or predatory and hardened, sexualized girlhood affects our daughters from infancy onward, telling them that how a woman appears to be like issues greater than who she is. someplace among the exhilarating upward push of lady energy within the Nineties and this present day, the pursuit of actual perfection has been recast as a source—the source—of woman empowerment. And commercialization has unfold the message speedier and farther, attaining women at ever-younger ages.
But, realistically, what percentage occasions are you able to say no while your daughter begs for a pint-size marriage ceremony costume or the most recent Hannah Montana CD? and the way risky is red and lovely anyway—especially given girls' successes within the lecture room and at the taking part in box? Being a princess is simply make-believe, in the end; ultimately they develop out of it. Or do they? Does enjoying Cinderella defend women from early sexualization—or top them for it? may possibly today's little princess develop into tomorrow's sexting youngster? And what if she does? might that make her in control of her sexuality—or an unwitting captive to it?
Those questions hit domestic with Peggy Orenstein, so she went sleuthing. She visited Disneyland and the foreign toy reasonable, trolled American lady position and Pottery Barn young ones, and met attractiveness festival mom and dad with preschoolers tricked out like Vegas showgirls. She dissected the technology, created an internet avatar, and parsed the unique fairy stories. The stakes change into larger than she—or we—ever imagined: not anything below the wellbeing and fitness, improvement, and futures of our ladies. From untimely sexualization to the danger of melancholy to emerging charges of narcissism, the capability damaging impression of this new girlie-girl tradition is undeniable—yet armed with knowledge and popularity, mom and dad can successfully counterbalance its impact of their daughters' lives.
Cinderella Ate My Daughter is a must-read for someone who cares approximately women, and for folks aiding their daughters navigate the rocky street to maturity.
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